Daring to Reclaim Your Personal Freedom: The Requisite for Optimal Living

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Personal freedom is essential for optimal living. And yet, as we look around us in the world these days, freedom is a lonely goddess.

The more we speak of the need and desire for freedom, the more it seems to dissipate all round. Freedom of speech, freedom of choice, freedom over our health and bodies… more and more, these freedoms are curtailed by a small minority “for your own good.”

Really?

When did we mysteriously lose the ability to research, learn, discern and choose according to the innate Wisdom that guides each one of us?  How could the agenda of a few possibly serve the needs of a multitude of individual human beings?

I believe it’s time to take back our Divinely given right to choose.

It’s time to restore our freedom. By reclaiming our freedom as individuals, we can help restore sanity to our world. We shall find freedom in our world to the extent that we restore freedom inside ourselves and in our lives.

Where in your life do you need freedom? Is it freedom from debt that you crave?  Or freedom from a job that keeps you just above being broke? Or freedom from dysfunctional relationships that poison your emotional well-being?

Freedom is a beautiful thing, and it is available to each one of us. However, the path to freedom runs counter to our survival impulses. We do not find freedom by capitulating or by escaping reality – we find it by facing the ways in which each of us has given our precious personal power away.

To the extent that you’re willing to face the external promise of external power, security, and support enough to abandon your personal power, choice and autonomy, you’ll reclaim your Divinely endowed freedom as a soul. The more you’re willing to intentionally face the ways in which you settled for empty promises of externally granted freedom, the more you’re able to reclaim your personal power, choice and freedom.

True freedom starts with each one of us as individuals. What is weighing down your consciousness and disempowering you? Go there and do what you need to clean it out. Start taking back your freedom!

You are the one who gave away your power to choose, and so you are the one who can set yourself free.

Imagine what your life could look like if you took your power back!  Who would you become? What would you create as your living legacy?  How would you feel about the future if you could intentionally create space for something new to show up?

The journey to personal freedom is a heroic one that each one of us needs to undertake if we choose to live meaningfully.

It is a magical journey that offers a sense of wonder and sheer joy, of falling in love with life. Magic happens when we let our guard down and start to live from the inside out, instead of trying to appease  external dictates.

The path of freedom invites us to open to new experiences, living with a vulnerability that is free from fear. No matter what else is happening in our lives, we have an open invitation to fall in love with life.

Where many are discouraged by the divisiveness and polarized perspectives in the world around us, I see opportunities for humanity to rise to the challenges of this time.

It is time to adapt to uncertainty and subjective realities by improving our ability to listen deeply to our inner guidance as well as the voices of others. Freedom requires us to respect the subjective experiences and viewpoints of others instead of trying to make them wrong. Above all, we need to fully accept the sovereignty of ourselves and others to choose our individual paths.

I believe that humanity can release the childish egoic desire to win at all costs, and that we can adapt to living in harmony with the uncertainty and entanglement that undergirds the quantum paradigm.

We have great opportunities to reclaim our freedom and empowerment as individuals, and to help restore the collective. We’re invited to honor just how connected we are with one another and with all life. We are free to relax into the diversity of an abundant universe, and to experience a state of continuous flow and quantum coherence.

When we no longer give away our freedoms for a false sense of certainty, we’ll enjoy an ever-deepening trust in the perfect unfoldment of Nature, the Cosmos, and unconditional Divine love.

Freedom of choice allows us to tap into the abundance of a Universe that far exceeds anything we’ve known so far. It all starts by taking back our freedom as individuals, and letting the energy ripple out from there to transform our world!

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The Science of Miracles: How You Can Tap Into The Healing Power of Higher Consciousness Now

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I am often asked how energy healing and distance healing work. To the outside observer, the results may appear magical or even woo-woo, and some are afraid of it.

My response is that energy healing and distance healing are spiritual technologies that operate in the quantum field. They help us harness higher consciousness to evolve and to return to our soul blueprint – both as individuals and as a collective.

To explain, allow me to geek out a bit and explain how these phenomena work. All energy healing and distance healing are what is known in quantum physics as non-local events, and they operate on sound quantum physics principles.

Well-known physicist Nick Herbert enumerated three primary characteristics of non-local events:

  1. They are unmediated, meaning you do not necessarily need a transmission field for a non-local event to occur. It occurs even in the absence of an identifiable field.
  2. Non-local events are unmitigated, meaning their strength does not dwindle because of distance or time; and
  3. Non-local events are immediate and sometimes even anachronistic, meaning they can happen before they happen.

On many occasions, I have found that clients have begun to feel their energies shifting as soon as they schedule an appointment and even before the actual session. Once the intention has been set and action taken by scheduling a session, the energies in the Field already start responding to that set intention!

In addition, time and space are irrelevant to the distance healing process. If I am on Mountain Standard Time in Arizona and my client is in Budapest, I am seven hours in my client’s past timeline, while they are 7 hours into my future, yet we are connected in the Field which transcends linear time/space. Results are unaffected by the distance in time and space, which is what one would expect when working with torsion energy capable of moving faster than observable light.

In fact, quantum non-locality is a principal characteristic of distance healing and energy healing applications which use wave genetics. A Russian research team led by molecular biologist Peter P. Gariaev found that DNA can cause “disturbance patterns” in space, generating small electromagnetic wormholes of a subquantum nature. These microscopic, DNA-activated wormholes bend light to non-local energy signatures in ways similar to those found in the vicinity of black holes, including the Galactic Center. These DNA-activated wormholes are connections between different areas in the multiverse through which data such as sound and light codes can be transmitted outside the space-time continuum to assist human evolution.

Distance healing is reasonably accounted for as a meta-genetic phenomenon. Healing can be performed from a distance using elements such as wave form (voice) and intention (consciousness). This is in alignment with Dr. Larry Dossey’s concept of Era III medicine and non-localized mind, and is further confirmed by the theories and applications of wave-genetics.

Biologist Rupert Sheldrake’s Morphic Resonance theory posits a similar transpersonal morphogenetic network. Dr. Sheldrake’s concept of “formative causation” emphasizes the existence of morphic fields that unite entire species universally outside space-time. According to Sheldrake’s research, these omnipresent resonance fields can be expressed biologically if correctly tuned into, even if a species is extinct.

We see evidence of this phenomenon in the metamorphosis of caterpillars in the chrysalis. It is a little-known but important fact that caterpillars completely dissolve into a soup of amino acids before reassembling into butterflies. This soup contains no recognizable cells or DNA as it is understood presently, yet when the time is right, the torsion life-wave signals the DNA to recombine and, within a matter of days, cells emerge to create new life-forms!

In addition, evolving life on our planet also benefits from the larger context of Galactic cycles and change. Our solar system periodically orbits into Galactic regions characterized by greater density of torsion waves (fields of greater light or consciousness) and we are currently in such a period where Earth is entering the Galactic current sheet. The Galactic current sheet is an electric field that ripples out from the center of the Milky Way and Earth moves through this sheet roughly every 12,000 years, taking hundreds of years to pass through each time. During such periods, both planet Earth and all life forms on her are intelligently stimulated to evolve in spectacular ways – physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.

This process has profound implications for life on the planet. We can expect to see an uptick in consciousness, intuition, telepathy, and many other manifestations of higher consciousness during this transition. We are already seeing this manifest in energy healing and distance healing.

Evolving human consciousness, not man-made technology, is the key to true healing and evolution. The more developed an individual healer’s level of consciousness, the less need there is for a mechanical crutch. The power of transformation lies in consciousness, not in technology.

While technology has its place and value, relying exclusively on something outside ourselves to heal us or make us “whole,” is at best giving away our power, and at worst worshiping a false Source. The power to heal and transform is in each one of us, and it is awakening in humans around the planet.

How do we access this energy? Through evolving in consciousness as individuals and as a species. Both the crisis and the opportunity of our time is to surrender the stronghold of ego over our lives, along with its limiting fear mechanisms. We are called to embody the primary torsion energy of unconditional love that is seeking to evolve us into higher consciousness.

Our true nature is a state of awareness that transcends duality and consciously exists in a multidimensional continuum. Author Barbara Hand Clow has often said that, in the final analysis, all dilemmas are perceptual—which implies that all solutions are perceptual as well. Author Wayne Dyer put it this way: “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at, change.”

Energy healing, including distance healing, serves as a meta-genetic transfer of consciousness manifesting as torsion waves that stimulate molecular rearrangement of potentiality. In turn, shifting potentiality activates DNA and shifts bioenergy fields, which then modify metabolic and replication functions in cells, facilitating healing. I know that is a mouthful but it will sound like music to the ears of science geeks!

Daniel Pinchbeck captured this process beautifully when he reminded us in his book 2012: The Return of Quetzalcoatl: “Soon there will be a great change to your world … You have just a few years yet remaining to prepare the vehicle for your Higher self. Use them preciously … Consciousness is technology—the only technology that exists … The current transition is … a return to origin. The original matrix of this new world reality is the ecstatic limitlessness of your own being.”

Indeed, consciousness is the spiritual technology for evolution of all life forms.

We are living in transformative times and we can activate this pure creative potential by cultivating the stillness within. By silencing the endless flow of mind and emotions, we can tap into the larger field of collective consciousness. On a species level, it is embodying Christ or unity consciousness that brings about change in the collective and facilitates our innate potential to use telepathy and hyper-communication.

This ability to seamlessly communicate and interact across time and space throughout a species has been used successfully in the animal kingdom for millions of years.

When a queen ant is taken from her colony, for example, construction continues unaffected. If the queen dies, however, all work stops. The queen continues to transmit the construction blueprint for her colony via the collective consciousness of her species and can do so across great distances, as long as she is alive.

Humans chose to abandon such hyper-communication abilities almost completely in order to experience individuality. And yet, during this time of awakening to higher consciousness, we are called to transcend self-centered behavior rooted in survival fears and to return to a more unified, heart-based way of living.

Just as the queen ant transmits the construction blueprint for her colony through time and space, this heart-based orientation restores the individual ability for members of homo sapiens to access and realign to their soul blueprint from Spirit.

As we further develop this heart-based way of life in the coming years, our evolving consciousness, telepathy, energy healing, and distance healing will become tools for growth and empowerment. These technologies of higher consciousness open the way for more and more people to access the construction blueprint for our species as a collective, and offer healing and transformation to the entire human collective.

War or Peace: The Battle For Our Hearts

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We all yearn for peace, yet the world is embroiled in endless wars. At this moment, there are powerful forces at work in our world, guiding us toward a deeper understanding of ourselves, our true nature and our potential for inner transformation. These forces are akin to a cosmic tide, inviting us on a profound journey of self-discovery. It’s as though we’ve been sailing on autopilot through different aspects of our lives, and now we’ve reached a pivotal point. The direction we choose from here is critical, as it holds the key to our growth and/or survival.

As the cosmos moves, so do we. Energy is constantly in motion, and it demands direction. Our personal evolution, much like the cosmos itself, relies on our ability to consciously channel our raw, untamed energy in a way that serves our personal growth and the common good.

In a world that seethes with chaos, where does peace come from? Peace comes from a vision that is clear and pure, that comes from the other end of the violence, from a place where we are no longer holding onto the darkness that obscures our minds. Peace comes from the Source of life and love. It represents the totality of truth that we all yearn to return to.

Our deepest, most vulnerable emotions are a part of this challenge. How do we respond when we find ourselves grappling with intense, dark, and deeply buried emotions? When these emotions surface, we can feel violated, betrayed, or victimized. They bring us face to face with our own inner darkness, which can be as unsettling as it is transformative.

This darkness within each of us needs to be acknowledged. It’s an essential part of our journey toward self-realization. Let’s not judge or shy away from it; after all, feeling overwhelmed at times is natural when we navigate challenging life transitions.

So by all means acknowledge the overwhelm, and then muster your determination to do the work! Determination is a powerful driving force. When channeled in service to spirituality, it helps us delve deeper into the unconscious aspects of our beings and to heal our wounds by exposing them to the light of truth. The turbulence on the surface of our lives is asking us to tap into our soul’s desire for growth and healing instead of getting lost in the shadow emotions of fear, denial or shutdown. We face a clear choice: either heal and evolve or succumb to the darkness of fear, hatred and despair.

As our inner darkness is revealed, it dissolves because when a shadow illusion is brought to the light of awareness, it simply ceases to exist.

The challenges of this time call for unwavering determination to champion our own spiritual growth, whatever the cost. Always remember that it’s during the most triggering and challenging moments that our most significant growth potential emerges. When we embrace discomfort and face it head-on, we set ourselves free. When we fail to do so, we contribute to the conflict we witness in the world. We can – and must – do better than that!

As we move forward on this transformative journey, there will be many opportunities for deep healing and transformation, first on the personal level and then for the collective. Courageous hearts look beyond the current upheaval to the potential beckoning beyond.

Upheaval disrupts the status quo to make way for something new. It can feel scary when we take our eyes off the goal – letting go of what no longer serves to create space for something new. And yet, letting go only hurts when we try to assert our personal will and resist the unknown. Instead of clinging to that which has outlasted its purpose, we are advised to let go of the old, to trust in the master plan of life, and to focus on optimal outcomes beyond the current upheavals.

During these challenging times, old resentments and unhealed wounds tend to resurface: our insecurities, fears and memories of injustices suffered. These, too, serve a purpose.

Their sting reminds us to nurture compassion and tenderness in the very places where we’ve experienced great suffering. The ongoing tragedies in Israel, Gaza, the Ukraine and elsewhere are reminders of old wounds that have refused to heal. Whatever we do not resolve, we will recreate until we do – both as individuals and as a collective.

Times of upheaval not only reveals our unhealed wounds; it also reveals where we continue to inflict pain on ourselves and others. We recognize this recurring theme in our personal lives, families and communities. Whatever remains unhealed within us perpetuates suffering, both for ourselves and those around us. As a result, the suffering around us calls for healing at all levels, starting within each one of us.

Even when situations in our lives appear too broken or wounded to fix, healing is possible. It simply requires courage and honesty, along with trust in the innate intelligence and timing of our spiritual journey.

On the spiritual path, times of exploration and discovery alternate with times of integration and consolidation. As the process evolves, it emphasizes particular aspects of our spiritual development. Such emphasis leads to an exploration of deeper existential wounds that call for healing. We are brought face to face with the warring factions within ourselves, as well as between us and others. This is an opportunity for profound healing, which can pave the way for emergent spiritual gifts and service.

It is also important to note that during times of conflict, we tend to regress to more primal behavior: destruction seems justified, and words become weapons. Blame and shame may dominate our interactions as we reduce others to the worst aspects of their nature and so justify our own behavior. This can cause collateral damage to innocent individuals and the world around us.

Reflect, for example, how overwrought parents have allowed the battles of their adult lives to encroach upon their children’s innocence. And have we not all witnessed the pain that stems from our parents’ conflicts? It’s important to remember the delicate inner child within each of us and the ease with which we can disregard or wound that innocence.

War is far from a tidy affair; it’s a destructive force that can’t be controlled without unintended consequences. In our pursuit of what we regard as true, we may inadvertently cause harm to countless innocents. Hatred can masquerade as bravado or superiority over others to justify cruel actions. It is easy to forget that perpetuating violence is not a path to true or lasting peace.

Our world, both within and around us, is repeating the same message. It calls out for compassion, forgiveness and inclusion. What we choose to ignore or exclude doesn’t vanish; it will linger on until appropriate conditions bring it to the surface to be dealt with again and again.

For healing and transformation to happen, disclosure must take place. However, when we fixate on the wrongs, gloating in collective judgment and hatred of the darkness, we are no better than that which we despise; we energetically link to the very wrongs we fixate on. True transformation requires us to move beyond what’s wrong and to focus on the potential beyond the disclosures so we remain focused on doing the necessary work to heal and evolve.

True healing also requires us to transcend the need to be right or to exact revenge. It takes place in the field beyond right and wrong, as Rumi put it. It comes from the Source of love and life, and it holds the answers to our deepest questions. We don’t need to fully understand the process to embrace it; we simply need to trust in the Power that brings it about.

This human journey is far from easy, and difficulties are plentiful. When we see no clear solution, it indicates that we must seek solutions beyond our old, familiar patterns. The path to peace may not be straightforward, but it is worth pursuing. As each of us evolves on our spiritual path, our self-realization becomes our most significant contribution to a peaceful world.

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From Insidious Problems to Inclusive Solutions: The Spirituality of Our Future

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Have you noticed how casual conversation has turned into a minefield of potential conflict? Our world has become so polarized in recent years that if often feels as if society is unraveling at the seams. What is contributing to this phenomenon and what can we do about it?

When we exclude, we lose

Lack of inclusivity fosters division, exclusion and, ultimately, persecution. This applies to family systems as well as to larger groups. We see this happening all over, from individual social settings to larger government policies.

Exclusion stems from a misguided survival mechanism – the egoic need to obliterate other viewpoints so we can feel secure. It operates on limited information and often rejects truth in favor of the deeper ego need to control. Over time, such limitations fuel victimizing and fragmentation, both at an individual level and beyond. It divides us instead of bringing us together around our common human values.

Exclusion creates social unraveling on steroids! We do not need more separation, but Higher intelligence to unite humanity around our common goals and needs.

The healing power of Higher intelligence

Higher intelligence does not seek to divide and conquer through fragmentation or transhumanism. Rather, it seeks to fully inhabit and transform human nature from within by serving a transcendent Power greater than our rigid, limited ego. Higher intelligence honors the wisdom of our common Divine Source and the eternal nature of our souls.

Healing for our world starts by remembering this common Source. When given its rightful place in the circle of life, this transcendent Power can gather humans from across the spectrum of diversity to unite around our common needs and values. Returning to Source is our first step toward mutual forgiveness and unification. It allows us to return to our inner compass.

Evolve or devolve: it’s our choice

Humanity has evolved this far not by compromising to meet the demands of every loud voice, but by honoring Higher principles. When we abandon our inner compass and water down Higher Truth, we surrender to the insatiable needs of egos gone amuck… and we devolve. Evolution requires us to stay aligned to Higher Truth and live by the Golden Rule: doing unto others as we would have them do to us. No-one is exempt.

We ignore the Golden Rule at our own peril. When we insist on being treated as special or more deserving than others, we reject the inherent wholeness that underlies all. The ego need for specialness blinds our perception to other views and leads to further fragmentation. When we dismiss facts and blindly cling to our limiting beliefs, we soon drift toward partial truths, twisted thinking and evil. There is a steep price to pay for this selective perception: By settling for lesser evil, everyone loses because choosing lesser evil ultimately further empowers evil.

Transcending our differences

How do we break free from this collective trance? We cannot free ourselves or wake others up by attacking other views – such a dualistic approach simply reinforces the desire to dig in and cling more to entrenched beliefs. We need to transcend opposing views to find workable solutions that benefit the whole.

Transcending our differences starts by finding the common ground that unites us. When we acknowledge our mutual need for solutions, we can build bridges of harmonious cooperation between ourselves and others. Working from our common core, we can find solutions that transcend duality-based viewpoints. This is known as the third way – a path that supersedes the entrenched viewpoints of self and other.

Living by the third way

Einstein understood this principle when he said that problems cannot be solved with from same level of thinking from where we created them. This third way is the path of higher consciousness which transcends the limited duality of ego. When we recognize one another as diverse expressions of the One Creator, we can overcome differences and work toward unifying goals that benefit the common good.

Ignoring Higher Law is not an option if we wish to survive and evolve. When we turn away from Truth, we lose our connection to Higher intelligence and get mired in the dualistic battle between egos. We feed our own egos on junk by judging others as bad or less than us – and by doing so, we ultimately turn into the very things we judge or despise.

Two sides of the same coin

Judgment and hatred of others tie us to the problem and make it impossible to find win-win solutions.

We see this dynamic playing out around us every day. Liberals call for freedoms by stressing the differences between groups, genders or color – and it ultimately becomes oppressive of anyone who does not fit into one of these limiting boxes. Likewise, conservatives reject liberal labels and fixate on the ‘liberal evil,’ oblivious of the evil in their own hatred of the other. In the end, opposing groups of all kinds are united in their common judgment and hatred which further fragments, divides and imprisons them duality. There is no unity to be found.

Even activism derived from ego does not have the capacity to bridge the divide among groups because ego always seeks primacy of the self. Dualistic activism is blinded to Higher Truth: it merely fuels further polarization no matter how well-intended. Instead of rearranging the deck chairs on the Titanic, we may find ourselves weaponizing and throwing them at others.

Where is the Golden Rule in that? It gets trampled by egos on steroids! What is needed to bridge the chasm, is greater commitment to find the common threads that unite us as humanity and then to take appropriate collective action that benefits the whole.

The battle for our minds

The true battle we are engaged in now is not waged on the battlefields of the world, but in the inner terrain of our minds. When we fail to discern the source behind messages we are bombarded with, we easily capitulate to propaganda. Likewise, we lock ourselves into the limitations of duality-consciousness whenever we blindly oppose other viewpoints. Every time we are too lazy to do our own independent research and instead capitulate to a steady stream of misinformation and propaganda, we get more brainwashed ourselves. Gradually, we lose our connection to Higher Truth and to our common humanity; we become fragmented by superficial divisions designed to splinter the fabric of our society. And we become part of the problem.

Finding solutions within

And yet, there are solutions to every problem. We find optimal solutions whenever we no longer blame, shame and marginalize others. The solutions needed in our world cannot be found in ego structures such as politics, institutional education or religion. They need to be rediscovered within, starting with the common ground shared by all humanity. We need to individually and collectively bow to the Higher Truth that resides in each of us. Only then can we grow into our full potential.

The spirituality of the future

Our human vessels contain the sacred potential of each soul that yearns for healing to begin. Instead of dividing and hating our fellow humans, our souls gently nudge us to come together and heal: forgiving ourselves for our individual blindness to Truth, and then extending that same compassionate forgiveness to others. We need to walk with eyes wide open to see beyond the façade and find potential for good in every situation. We must relentlessly search out and eliminate every virus of fear that hovers in our minds, seeking to hijack our thinking. As we stabilize our being in Eternal Truth, it will expose all lies masquerading as information. When we return to our sacred center and transcend the ego-made, politically inflamed divisions in society, we can gather around the sacred fire of the heart to heal and unite.

Each one of us is on this planet to learn and grow. We came here for this time of crisis, which also holds the potential for evolutionary growth. If we choose to navigate by marginalizing and destroying others and other life forms, we will devolve and potentially self-destruct. Evolution and survival require us to grow up as a species and as individuals: taking responsibility for our actions and making space for diversity in the circle of life.

You and I can start right here, right now by choosing not to feed the hateful path of separation but to embrace the path that nurtures, forgives and unites. The spirituality of our future requires that we release the grip of ego so we can walk our talk, living by the principles of Higher Law. That is true freedom and joy!

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How To Tame Your Inner Critic Now in Six Simple Steps

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We all have one – that inner critic that spews forth endless criticism, judgment or disapproval about our efforts. It might lead with critical questions like “what were you thinking?” or self-blame like “what’s wrong with you?” or “you’re such a loser!” And since our thoughts hugely influence how we feel and behave, the inner critic’s negative self-talk can become downright destructive.

This critical inner voice was formed out of painful early life experiences where we saw or experienced hurtful attitudes toward us or others close to us. Over time, we unconsciously adopted and internalized this pattern of destructive self-criticism, allowing it to continue the internal monologue even when there is no need for it.

When we fail to separate from the inner critic, it can run rampant in our lives, creating conflict and sabotaging our success.

Buddhist teacher Pema Chodron has said, “If we want to make peace with ourselves and with the world at large, we have to look closely at the source of all of our wars.”

Both war and peace start within us. If we want peace in our lives and in the world, we need to learn how to stop this internal violence and abuse. We must learn how to proactively address our negative thoughts and develop a more productive dialog within.

Here are six steps to tame the inner critic:

1. Develop awareness of your thoughts. Awareness precedes change, and taming the inner critic is no exception. Become aware of the voice of your inner critic; recognize that it is merely an aspect of your psyche and not all that you are. We get so used to hearing our own narrations we can become oblivious as to their source. Pay attention to your inner narrative; recognize that just because the inner critic says something, doesn’t mean it’s true.

2. Allow yourself to observe the inner critic. Become aware of when your inner critic shows up, and what its negative messages are. Notice how its messages are often exaggerated, biased, and disproportionate. Its power to control you lies in its ability to operate unchallenged. Typically, the inner critic’s judgments and accusations may not be fully truth-based. Allow yourself to see this inner bully for what it is, so you can take appropriate action.

3. Examine the evidence. If you are thinking in terms of absolutes (“You’re never going to make it” or “nobody loves you”) ask yourself if that statement is true. Looking at evidence on both sides of the argument can help you look at the situation more rationally and less emotionally. The evidence of insight empowers, while the condemnation of the inner critic always tries to diminish.

4. Identify the truth. Ask yourself what advice you’d give to a friend struggling with self-criticism, failure or doubt. Now, give that same advice to yourself with kindness. If you’ve made a mistake, having a decent regret and resolving to learn from it, is usually enough – you don’t need to condemn yourself for life.

5. Replace overly critical thoughts with more accurate statements. When you find yourself thinking, “I never do anything right,” replace it with a balanced statement like, “Sometimes I do things really well and sometimes I don’t.” You are allowed to make mistakes! Each time you find yourself thinking an exaggerated negative thought, respond with a more accurate statement and move on; don’t ruminate on your mistakes.

6. Balance acceptance with self-improvement. There’s a difference between always telling yourself that you’re not good enough and reminding yourself that you can work at improving. When we resist our flaws, they persist. Instead, accept your flaws for what they are today, and commit to work on improving in these areas. Acknowledging your weaknesses for what they are today doesn’t mean you are doomed to stay that way. It simply reflects your baseline today, and you can use that information to strive toward becoming better. That way, you use the input from your inner critic to motivate you instead of to bully you.

Your inner dialogue with yourself is a critical part of your psyche. It will either fuel your success or prevent you from reaching your full potential. Taming your inner critic and silencing the excess negativity will empower you to live more effectively and to develop your full potential.

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