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Awakening To The Eternal Now

By Ada Porat

Every year-end, prognostications about the future proliferate. Forecasts and forebodings are offered to support any point of view, most of it feeding into the human fear of the unknown.

At one time or another each one of us has thought about what is awaiting around the corner or a few years down the road, and how it will affect us. But if we're going to live joyfully in the present moment, we must recognize that the future is not yet created; it is an illusion beyond our grasp. In the process of worrying anxiously over anticipated outcomes, we actually lose the opportunities of this present moment.

In reality, there is no need to be concerned about what is waiting for us around the corner or a few years down the road because we are sustained by the Presence of the Divine right now. The choices we make now are indeed the only choices that matter, for in the realm of Spirit there exists only the Eternal Now. And so the very sustenance of this moment is available to us every present moment, throughout Eternity.

Advanced spiritual teachers have always taught the folly of worrying over the future. Christ said, “Do not be anxious about what you will eat or what you will drink… but seek the kingdom of God, and all of these things shall be added to you.”

To find freedom from fear, it is of critical importance to realize that we are not victims of time and space. The Course in Miracles teaches that we are limitless spiritual beings, subject only to that which we hold in mind. In other words, whatever we believe in, becomes our destiny! The very belief in the outcome we hold in mind, sets up a powerful attractor field. This field draws resonating outcomes and brings about the creation of what is held in mind, whether we focused on it out of fear or out of faith.

As we let go of the belief that the future is fraught with danger, that the end of the world is looming, or that we are powerless over the destiny of our souls, the manifestation of these outcomes are also averted. Instead, we can choose to embrace the belief that we live in a perfect, harmonious, loving world!

Perception becomes reality. That means we can live in a perfect world by releasing all beliefs or perceptions to the contrary. As we let go of the limiting beliefs about our world, we can move into the higher spiritual awareness that embraces all with peace, abundance, harmony, and right action.

Around the planet, a large segment of the population is already moving into this higher frequency and living there. Their collective act of holding in mind a world unfolding from perfection to perfection, is slowly transforming the dense energies of the physical world to align with that higher spiritual vision.

Spiritual consciousness teaches us that it is God's will for us to live in perfect peace with overflowing joy and happiness. If we truly believe this, it then follows that all things good, true, and beautiful have already been given to us - including the answer to every question and the supply for every need we could possibly ever have. When we live in this consciousness of having everything we need in this present moment, we are able to also see everyone else in this world as having the fullness of Divine provision now.

In the third-dimensional density of life on earth, individuals often get divided or split into the illusion of duality: our language clearly provides this clue in the term in-divid-dual. However, the true basis of our origin is Spirit and not the physical ego. The nature of Spirit is indivisible, always One, always connected to All That Is. I am a part of you, you are part of me, and we are eternally part of the One.

This is why we should never see each other as poor, sick, unfulfilled, fearful, or burdened with guilt. As I see and behold you, I see myself as well. When I see you through the worldly eyes of ego as someone less than perfect, I call forth into manifestation that which is not desired for either of us individually.

Yet when I look at you through the eyes of spirit or love, I see you as perfection continuously unfolding, moment by moment. And by seeing the perfection underlying all, I bring that into reality. This is how miracles happen: when someone focuses on the perfection beneath the illusion of disease, that eternal truth dispels all illusion and becomes their observable reality.

Our reality is God, and we are spiritual beings who exist as aspects of that Divinity. Divine abundance created us rich; divine perfection created us in an eternal state of well-being; divine love created us loved and loving; divine power created us as totally triumphant in every activity of life.

It is the denial of this truth that ensnares us into the trap of lack and worthlessness. There is no need for us to sink into the quagmire of lack and fear! Knowledge of our sacred Self eliminates the illusion of need, for the perfection of Self is the very principle of fulfillment.

Whatever we focus on within, we become. Remember that joy and sadness cannot exist simultaneously. When we choose one, the other cannot be. When we choose joy, we leave the other emotion in the wake.

As you choose your reality in each moment, may you choose:

happiness with no strings attached;

peace of mind that can't be compromised;

relationships without resentments or fear;

an unshakable sense of security;

confidence to accept any challenge life brings;

and a love that leaves no-one out of its embrace.

©Copyright Ada Porat. For more information, visit www.adaporat.com
This article may be freely distributed in whole or in part, provided there is no charge for it and this notice is attached.

Attracting More Love In Life

by Ada Porat

Through the centuries, Valentine’s Day has been celebrated as the day for love and we mark it with flowers, gestures of appreciation and gifts wrapped in red to symbolize passion.  It is a day celebrating relationships, whether you are single or committed.

Stephen Levine, the coauthor of Embracing the Beloved, suggests that we “use relationships as a means for profound inner growth.”  How true – our friends, families and partners offer us incredible opportunities to elevate our spiritual and emotional lives.

At times, these interactions can confuse, frustrated, and even hurt us, but when we acknowledge their importance and make a commitment to enhance them, we receive rich rewards.

In celebration of Valentine’s Day, I’d like to share a ritual with you that you can use to enrich your relationships with those who matter to you - whether you are single, committed or married - by helping you gain insight into your own needs and expectations.  Sharing this ritual with someone can also be a way to strengthen the bond between you.

When you get a few quiet moments, I invite you to take a look at yourself from this perspective in order to enrich your life with more love in every way.

Step 1:  Explore Within

The first step in this ritual involves exploring your own heart and mind to find out what you have to offer.  What are the qualities you have to offer your partner, your friends, or in relationships? What are the qualities that you have that makes being with you fun and rewarding for others? What are the unique gifts within that you long to share with others? Make a list of the things you have to offer others – whether they be your co-workers, your friends, your family or your partner. 

Step 2: Make Your Wish List

Take a few moments now to reflect on what it is that you look for or want in relationships to feel fulfilled.  Do you desire companionship, acceptance, respect, caring or fun?  Perhaps it is important for you to have people in your life who are committed to the same goals and values.  Perhaps you really wish for one specific individual who can play with or coach you.  Simply list all the qualities in relationships that are important to you in your life right now, and that you wish to attract more of.  Perhaps you wish for someone to join you on a new adventure or you have a desire to be able to share freely from the heart.  Or perhaps you would love to explore new places, see a certain movie, learn a new skill, go to a concert, learn to play an instrument or take up a new hobby.

Step 3:  Pick A Few Items To Focus On 

Select a few items on from your wish list in Step 2 that will really make you happy, and MAKE PLANS TO DO THAT FOR YOURSELF!  When you start treating yourself the way you wish for others to treat you, magic happens.  Go to that movie you’ve been wanting to see; sign up for the class you’ve been wanting to do; buy yourself that CD that you’ve been dreaming about… because you are the person that knows best how to make yourself happy and you’re worth it! 

Step 4:  Learn To Appreciate Your Virtues

As you start taking action to living a rich and rewarding life, something exciting happens. When you start meeting the very qualities that you listed on your wish list in Step 2, you start becoming whole.  You start seeing yourself as a lovable, interesting, deserving and fascinating individual.  By honoring, nurturing and developing yourself, you develop an aura that radiates your sense of vitality.  This joyful energy starts drawing others to you – not because of need, but because of the inner beauty that you radiate!

Step 5:  Welcome Others Into Your Life

When you engage in your own life fully, your partner and loved ones will notice the change in you because you will be operating from a place of fullness instead of running on empty.  This is a fabulous gift you have to offer others – coming from that place of self-fulfillment and joy, instead of from a place of inner neediness.  Investing in and treating yourself as you would your very best friend, pay off wonderful dividends.  It raises your vibrational frequency from that of a lonely, needy person to that of an interesting, self-actualizing individual.  This higher vibration sets up an attractor field that will attract like vibrations, and you will find others attracted to you magnetically.  With new people drawn into your life, you will have your pick of friends with whom you can continue the journey of discovery and growth!

©Copyright Ada Porat. For more information, visit www.adaporat.com

This article may be freely distributed in whole or in part, provided there is no charge for it and this notice is attached.

Mastering the Secret Language of Love: Love Equations

By Ada Porat

What is it that attracts us to certain individuals, while we find others unappealing?

In some circles, this force of attraction has been attributed to fate, destiny or even karma.  Beyond the romantic dream of soul mates, there is a very real scientific cause at work here: the secret language of love that is hard-wired into your physicality. 

Each one of us consists of 6,000 miles of neurons wired through the body. These neurons affect every area of our lives, including our complex behaviors in love - a process that is totally subjective and illogical.

If you’ve ever fallen in love, you know that it sometimes has nothing to do with whether the person is “right” for you or not. Why does this happen? This happens simply because what we describe in our society as “falling in love” is the formation of a subjective neural pathway inside our brains.

What does it mean? It simply means that in response to previous emotional experiences, your brain has become wired to interpret love in a very particular way. And this way is shaped by what you have interpreted love to be in the past.

Each of us has a unique love formula or equation:  this equation contains all the behaviors, emotions and expressions that you interpret as love. Together, they comprise your secret language of love which operates largely on a subconscious level. 

One aspect of your love equation contains a specific set of criteria that must be present in order for you to fall in love. This aspect explains why some of us are inexplicably drawn to individuals with dark hair, blue eyes or some other physical characteristic.  When we find ourselves attracted to another, the brain chemistry starts generating the appropriate endorphins and we “fall in love.”  

Another aspect of your love equation contains the set of criteria that must be present in order for you to feel loved. This aspect operates for the duration of the relationship: if the relationship is to have any chance of surviving the initial phase, it is imperative for us to learn more about what we need from one another in order to feel loved.  This is what I refer to as your secret love equation, because it happens at a subconscious level.

Your secret love equation is based on the concept of reward.  If you were rewarded with acknowledgement for certain behavior such as compliance when you were growing up, you learned to interpret that acknowledgement as love. You are likely to repeat some version of that behavior with a partner in the hope of getting a similar reward.  Hence, the compliant child becomes a submissive partner and expects to be rewarded for that behavior with acknowledgement that is interpreted as love.

And that’s where the rub lies!  Despite research conducted with thousands of people and their love equations, there are no two partners who have identical love equations for feeling loved.

Love equations are completely subjective.  Therefore, the way you express love could be very different from the way your partner interprets love.

When one partner expresses to the other, “I don’t feel loved by you,” the other may respond by listing many things they do to demonstrate their love. However, for the partner who is feeling unloved, none of the actions listed may equate to love in their mind, because these actions are not wired into their secret language of love. It is entirely possible for one partner in a relationship to feel they are being extremely loving, while the other partner is actually feeling completely unloved!

In general terms, men find it easier to express their love by doing things for their partner.  Women, on the other hand, may disregard these actions as expressions of love because they are looking for some romantic verbal expression of love apart from the daily routine.

And the plot thickens: While the basis for your unique love equation is based on emotional experiences from your past, your beliefs about what happens after you fall in love can change dramatically as a result of a major emotional upheaval.  

In the traditional (mythical) love equation cherished by our culture, you meet the person of your dreams, fall in love, get married and live happily ever after.  Most of us start out with a love equation similar to this… until the first experience of infidelity or a breakup! 

After suffering a broken heart and broken dreams, your love equation may change to meeting the partner of your dreams, falling in love, getting married, suffering infidelity and living in the pain of that experience forever. For such a person, even the thought of meeting a partner and falling in love, now equates to pain.

Every time that person mentally replays the negative emotional experience, they are actually strengthening the new, disempowering love equation by firing off a synaptic response in the brain that makes this new equation real for them.

How do we master the secret language of love in ourselves and in our partners?   We do so through honesty and commitment.  We need to honestly look at our areas of wounding and pain, and express it to our partners along with what we need to feel loved.  We also need to consciously commit never to hurt our partners intentionally in their areas of woundedness and to express our love for them in the language they need to receive it – even when their love equation is different from ours!

Developing a loving relationship requires mutual commitment to honor and respect our own truth and our partner’s truth without compromise.   When we are not honest with our love and our pain, our wounds and our fears, we compromise our truth.  Over time, the compromises made by not facing up to truth, breed resentment that will eventually destroy all intimacy and push our partners away.

When two souls are drawn together, it happens because there is a resonance in their resonant energy fields.  These fields draw people together because of their common energies. 

Such relationships offer us great opportunity for healing because we are drawn to others by that which resonates for both of us.  The matching fields offer a powerful opportunity for healing and evolution of both beings to a higher consciousness, provided a mutual commitment is made to learn each other’s secret language of love, heal each other’s wounds and to evolve as fully conscious, loving beings. 

Embarking on this exciting journey of discovery and growth can start with a simple commitment to your partner to provide the space for your mutual growth and healing.  How about taking the initiative and expressing your intentions to your partner, setting the stage for both to evolve?

You can start with a simple expression along these lines:  “I love you and I want us to be together for a very long time.  Because I don’t want us to live with any illusions, I want you to know that I will never consciously or maliciously hurt you, although you might feel hurt at times.  I don’t know where your wounds are, and so I need for you to be truthful with me so I can learn how not to hurt you.  When you let me know where your wounds are, I commit to help you heal.  When you tell me what you need from me to feel loved, I commit to express my love for you in your secret language of love so it will be meaningful to you.”

©Copyright Ada Porat.

This article may be freely distributed in whole or in part, provided there is no charge for it and this notice is attached. Further information about Ada Porat and her integrative approach to body-mind-spirit healing may be found at http://www.adaporat.com or by dialing US 602-283-4628 (MST).