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Attracting More Love In Life

by Ada Porat

Through the centuries, Valentine’s Day has been celebrated as the day for love and we mark it with flowers, gestures of appreciation and gifts wrapped in red to symbolize passion.  It is a day celebrating relationships, whether you are single or committed.

Stephen Levine, the coauthor of Embracing the Beloved, suggests that we “use relationships as a means for profound inner growth.”  How true – our friends, families and partners offer us incredible opportunities to elevate our spiritual and emotional lives.

At times, these interactions can confuse, frustrated, and even hurt us, but when we acknowledge their importance and make a commitment to enhance them, we receive rich rewards.

In celebration of Valentine’s Day, I’d like to share a ritual with you that you can use to enrich your relationships with those who matter to you - whether you are single, committed or married - by helping you gain insight into your own needs and expectations.  Sharing this ritual with someone can also be a way to strengthen the bond between you.

When you get a few quiet moments, I invite you to take a look at yourself from this perspective in order to enrich your life with more love in every way.

Step 1:  Explore Within

The first step in this ritual involves exploring your own heart and mind to find out what you have to offer.  What are the qualities you have to offer your partner, your friends, or in relationships? What are the qualities that you have that makes being with you fun and rewarding for others? What are the unique gifts within that you long to share with others? Make a list of the things you have to offer others – whether they be your co-workers, your friends, your family or your partner. 

Step 2: Make Your Wish List

Take a few moments now to reflect on what it is that you look for or want in relationships to feel fulfilled.  Do you desire companionship, acceptance, respect, caring or fun?  Perhaps it is important for you to have people in your life who are committed to the same goals and values.  Perhaps you really wish for one specific individual who can play with or coach you.  Simply list all the qualities in relationships that are important to you in your life right now, and that you wish to attract more of.  Perhaps you wish for someone to join you on a new adventure or you have a desire to be able to share freely from the heart.  Or perhaps you would love to explore new places, see a certain movie, learn a new skill, go to a concert, learn to play an instrument or take up a new hobby.

Step 3:  Pick A Few Items To Focus On 

Select a few items on from your wish list in Step 2 that will really make you happy, and MAKE PLANS TO DO THAT FOR YOURSELF!  When you start treating yourself the way you wish for others to treat you, magic happens.  Go to that movie you’ve been wanting to see; sign up for the class you’ve been wanting to do; buy yourself that CD that you’ve been dreaming about… because you are the person that knows best how to make yourself happy and you’re worth it! 

Step 4:  Learn To Appreciate Your Virtues

As you start taking action to living a rich and rewarding life, something exciting happens. When you start meeting the very qualities that you listed on your wish list in Step 2, you start becoming whole.  You start seeing yourself as a lovable, interesting, deserving and fascinating individual.  By honoring, nurturing and developing yourself, you develop an aura that radiates your sense of vitality.  This joyful energy starts drawing others to you – not because of need, but because of the inner beauty that you radiate!

Step 5:  Welcome Others Into Your Life

When you engage in your own life fully, your partner and loved ones will notice the change in you because you will be operating from a place of fullness instead of running on empty.  This is a fabulous gift you have to offer others – coming from that place of self-fulfillment and joy, instead of from a place of inner neediness.  Investing in and treating yourself as you would your very best friend, pay off wonderful dividends.  It raises your vibrational frequency from that of a lonely, needy person to that of an interesting, self-actualizing individual.  This higher vibration sets up an attractor field that will attract like vibrations, and you will find others attracted to you magnetically.  With new people drawn into your life, you will have your pick of friends with whom you can continue the journey of discovery and growth!

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